PLATTSBURGH — Parents these days often choose unusual names for their newborns, among them, locally, Baylor, Myca, Boone and Paityn.
Recently, a reader sent in a Speakout submission offering a strong opinion about such non-traditional names. We posted it on our Press-Republican Facebook page, where it drew many responses.
Here’s what we posted:
One of our readers sent this in for Speakout. What do you think?
“When are parents going to start giving sensible names to children. And spelled in a sensible way. Judeo-Christian names seem to be a thing of the past. It is terrible to see kids stuck with silly names for the rest of their lives. People we know in Oswego named their twins Salt and Pepper. That says it all!”
Here is a sampling of the responses we received:
Sarah Chase: “What effect on your life do their kids’ names have? If everyone was more tolerant it would not matter what someones name is! What is the worst thing that can happen because of their name? Names don’t mess up peoples lives, having to deal with intolerance because you are different has a much larger effect!”
Debbie Passno: “What’s ‘cute’ at birth and during the toddler years becomes less so when the kids start school. How about when they go out in search of jobs? What about when they are 65? I agree that people should be considerate and sensible about name choices. They follow us through life.”
T.K. Wilson: “Yes, normal names need to make a comeback. If you give your kid a name connected to your ethnic group, that’s fine! But if you name your kid something, say, Japanese and you are not Japanese, that’s just a lame excuse to get YOURSELF noticed for naming your kid something weird.”
Aimée Baker: “First, it’s problematic to equate sensible names with Judeo-Christian names. Plenty of names fall into the realm of ‘sensible’ based on your culture and perspective without needing to have Judeo-Christian origins. Second, ‘silly’ is a value judgement. It is quite possible that those children with unusual names or names with a unique spelling will appreciate their monikers for those differences. If not, they certainly are free to change them.”
Richard Armand Patrie: “Completely agree. In attempt to be original, the parent is unoriginal. Changing hard ‘C’ to a ‘K’ or adding extra consonants is for the parent’s benefit and not the child’s. It looks and sounds ridiculous. Let your kid grow up and decide if they want piercings and tattoos. They don’t need to be born with one.”
Tim McCormick: “The writer is intolerant of other cultures. I agree with Aimee Baker that people should not expect everyone to use Judeo-Christian names, as not everyone believes in those religions. The name Salt and Pepper is a little odd in my opinion, however if the children do not like the names, they can go by their middle names, and then change the names when they become adults.”
Angela Stansbury: “Try teaching a child how to spell a name even adults cannot pronounce ...”
Rebecca Barnes: “Kids are not allowed to change their name until they are of legal age. Parents need to consider the bullies that will be picking on the child for a name. This can lead to depression and suicide. I agree that some of the names are unique and fine, but come on...Salt and Pepper?? Poor kids. I am currently expecting my first child on August 9th, and the name is very important as we do not want our child to be picked on but I also do not want a common everyday name. It is a challenge for parents to make the right choice.”
Dessey Holm: “Well I am one that has changed the spelling of my kids names, Kameron and Maddayson. Both of them, 7 and 8, love the fact that it is unique. It should not bother anyone what other people name their blessings. Isn’t there other things to be concerned about?”
Brenden LaPier: “I think everybody’s aware of the fact that people in the North Country tend to think it’s 1965 and have a hard time adjusting to the times.”
Hope Rabideau: “Unique names are great. it gives the child their own personality in a sense. obviously some can’t accept changing times. you forget you didnt have these kids the parents did....are you in a way being a bully by writing this?”
Erin Sunshine Bray Cringle: “It’s shouldn’t matter to others what people choose to name their children; people should have better things to do with their lives then to have such strong opinions about others all the time. To each their own. No one besides the children are affected by their name; let them form their own opinion once older. They may love the name their parents gave them; if not, they can have it changed :)”
Christine A Blanchard: “I have no comment to this post except that I know of twins named orangejello and lemonjello (pronounced or-an-ja-lo and le-mon-ja-lo)!”
Kevin Correa: “Tolerance and perspective is the issue here. Yes, I agree some parents name their children off the wall names that may become an issue on the playground and later in life. But, many Judeo-Christian names mean something else. For instance Joseph means ‘He will enlarge.’ It’s all relative. Maybe we should start calling all the Joe’s ‘He will enlarge.’ That sounds a lot more out there than Salt and Pepper.”
Ahlsa Light: “Hey, i have a cool idea...Let’s all name our kids John, Mike, Chris, Lisa, Deborah & Sue. Weeee, who needs a sense of individuality?”
Romeyn Prescott: “I’m just going to say ‘hi’ here and note that I love being able to get my first name as my username on almost any website. :-) It’s a family name. I used to tire of having to tell people how to pronounce it, but wouldn’t trade it for anything else!”
Noreen Barcomb: “I think it is wonderful for parents to want original names for their individual children. However, it is important to think about the impact of their choices. When a child constantly has to correct the spelling or pronunciation of their name, it can be wearing on the child. Also, some parents get really upset if, for example, at a doctor’s office or pharmacy, they are asked if the child is male or female because it is impossible to tell by the choice of name. All factors need to be considered.”
Shirley Ryan: “I think they have the right to use any names they choose. When the children become adults, they may change their name if they are unhappy with it.”